Being in the moment.

For most of us non Yogi like individuals 'being in the moment' is very tricky.

We can maybe stop doing physical stuff, but the physical bit is much much easier than switching the brain off. So how do we stop those lists being drawn up constantly and the constant 'Oh I must remember to,' or 'Wouldn't it be great to.'

It takes focus and practice, lots of practice, but the good news is that the focus part is the same sort of focus we use when we have a deadline and manage to block everything out apart from the thing we are doing!

So take that focus and focus on something around you now and really look at it, what do you notice?

(If you are really stuck look at a tree! How many different colours are in the foliage, how many different shades of green?, how do the branches connect?)

Focus entirely on the thing happening around you and see how long you can keep that up before something pops into your head, acknowledge the thing and then start the process again.

Being in the moment is about a mental awareness of what is going on with us and those around us, our focus is in the present, not in the future or the past. It takes lots of practice and we can all get better at it.

Maybe once you have mastered objects, move on and look at people, and emotions internally and externally.

Living the life we have moment by moment in the present is the greatest gift we can give ourselves and those around us, so give yourself a treat, go on you deserve it!

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