Success, what is it and how do we get it?

What does success look like for you? Is it attached to a career? A job role (label) or position? Is it an amount of income generated or is it more?

In our very hierarchical workplaces (very few are truly flattened) success is often tied into the job we do, and the higher up the ladder we go the more 'successful' we are apparently.

However I pose you this question, when someone is giving your Eulogy what do you want them to say about you. That you achieved a particular position at work or that you had a successful whole life?

A few people who come to see me are at a stage in their lives where the external work generated view of success is not enough for them. They have either stopped getting fulfilment from it or are disappointed with the reality of the top of the ladder and want to explore a far wider view of success, a more balanced reality.

And as I tell them the good news is that YOU get to define what success is in your life, because it is just that, YOUR life. If success looks different to you then embrace that difference, but the challenge for many of us is that you have to believe that it compares equally. Fulfilment comes in all sorts of different shapes and sizes, but awareness of what fulfilment is for you is the starting point.

So if you decide to stay at home to raise your children for a period of time, or for always and that is your idea of a successful/ fulfilled life then please please please don't label yourself "just a mum" or "just a dad." It is anything other than 'just,' it is what fulfils you and should be labelled accordingly.

Success in life looks different for everyone. What does success look like for you?

If you want to know more about how to work out what your fulfilled life looks like drop me a line?

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