What makes you happy?

Think back to the last time you were really happy. What were you doing? How did it feel? And arguably most importantly when was that?

Surprisingly many of us will need to head all the way back to our childhood to find really unadulterated happiness, days where we got to do pretty much what we wanted (within our childlike worlds), and enjoyed it.

So how come we might find this difficult as adults?

There seems to be an assumption amongst us adults that happiness is finite, and something we aim for. Or else it is attached to achieving something like a promotion or getting something like a new car. But do those things really make you 'happy' or is happiness about an awareness of simple pleasures?

To compound this lack of awareness we also seem to feel guilty about expressing our happiness, in case we jinx it. Far better to let people know how 'busy' we are.

So how come we can be busy all of the time but we can't be happy all of the time?

So if you are up for the challenge to find a happier you- follow the steps below...

The first step: identify things in the present that make you happy.
The second step: do those things more often
The third step: be happier more often
The fourth step: tell someone you are happy..... you won't jinx it... honest!!!

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